I got to thinking about it the other evening as I was falling asleep (somehow that's when I get my best ideas, probably bc I'm finally relaxed) but I want to amend my Number one pet peeve regarding statements people make. I have tried to be very private in regards to this whole non- pregnancy thing, partly because I really don't want to hear everyone's opinions about it. I have known several women who casually mentioned they were trying to have a baby, and in came the influx of statements like " it will happen when it's time" and "God has a plan for you, try not to worry" or the worst offender of all "just relax, it will happen for you". I'm giving this a big fat UGH!!
I'm a Christian, I KNOW that God has a plan for me, your reminding me does not help at all. I have considered this, a lot. I have wondered all of the whys and what-ifs and have prayed about it too. Relax? How do you know if that particular person is relaxed or not? You are not in their head. I have been pretty relaxed about this whole thing, if you ask my opinion in the matter. I can't speak for others out there, and they may or may not tell you the same thing.
There have been several times in my life that I have impatiently waited for something to happen ( I.e flight school) and am glad that they didn't turn out exactly the way that I wanted. But I have to wonder about this. Is there something better for me out there that has prevented me from having a child? A job? The realization that I wouldn't want to be a stay at home Mom? Friendships? I can't know right now, it's all in God's plan for me.
I'm still maintaining some level of privacy with this whole thing.....I'm not linking it to my Facebook page. I don't think I'm ready to get the virtual "that poor girl is having trouble" look/ comments. I've seen it too many times to other friends. I think I said it one time to someone before I realized how unhelpful that is.
On that note, at what point is it ok to shut down the unsympathetic busybodies? And more to the point, how/ what do you say to someone without coming off as completely rude? I think people are generally well meaning souls and I wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings, but people don't realize it hurts MY feelings. So if you happen to stumble on this blog and you accidentally ask a woman when she's going to have a baby and she flips out, it's probably my blog. I'm going to apologize in advance. ;)
Wishing you well,
No Baby Here
